Warren Buffet, one oft the richest men, still lives in a small house together with his wife. He sais: “You only have to do a few things right in your life so long as you don’t do too many things wrong.”
I like this idea. Many of us torture ourselves, because we have the mistaken idea being perfect in everything and all the time would be the goal. This concept causes us to harm ourselves and puts pressure on our loved ones. Which makes things complicate.
Life is about contrast. We learn through the experience of doing stuff wrong to find out how it is done correctly.
Sounds very straightforward, without mystery or complexity.
And still, we put so much stress on our shoulders to be the super hero with no mistakes. The – illusionary – perfect human without flaws.
Not every mistake weighs the same.
Sometimes failure is irrelevant – other times it can have pretty severe consequences.
My deceased mother was a doctor. She was in charge of the intensive care unit in a childrens’ hospital. She did not even want to safe lives, it was her mission.
Still, a few times during my childhood they were not able to safe a kid.
Of course I have no ability to judge if these children died through medical mistreatment or because no one on earth would have been able to help in such a case.
What I learned from watching my mother going through this experience is this:
It helps us to live a good life when we think through what happens when everything goes south.
When we face the worst case – and in some way deal with it in advance.
A firefighter has to cope with a burnt down house.
A judge has to think through what happens when he puts an innocent person to jail.
A parent has to take into consideration that the child could get badly sick or make harmful choices when standing on their own feet.
Luckily, life and death cases are very rare.
In an average life we stumble over these areas mostly in thought.
So please put it in perspective when you screw up next time.
That’s ok. Life is about contrast.
We learn through the experience of doing stuff wrong to find out how it is done correctly.
Or as Warren Buffet puts it:“You only have to do a few things right in your life so long as you don’t do too many things wrong.”
That’s beautiful. And so true!
With so much love,
Anselma
p.s. Tango Etüden PRO are alive! On popular demand I wrote a second bassoon solo Tango book. I hope you enjoy it!! :o) Thank you for your loyalty, it was a pleasure to pick some new melodies from the Tango sky.
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